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On Love and Dogs

December 15th, 2009
Riley

Riley

Growing up I was totally clueless about dogs. Like every other nine year old boy on the planet, I wanted a dog, but we never got one. My parents opted for a more low maintenance option. A cat.

When I got out on my own in college I briefly entertained the idea of getting a Pug. I had a romanticized idea about how great it would be to drive across America in my car and to have my faithful, furry companion there with me sticking his head out the window, enjoying the breeze as we drove off into the sunset. That never happened either.

Reality quickly set in and I realized that my lifestyle was not conducive to a dog. I went out of town too much, and wasn’t home enough when I was in town. In addition, finding an apartment is tough enough without the variable of owning a dog.

Fortunately I was also smart enough to know that reality probably would be much different from my daydreams. One thing I knew for sure: they seemed to bark a lot and sounded (not just from barking, but from other people) like a lot of work.

My wife, however, is the epitome of a dog-lover. After much heated debate discussing the “dog question” during our courtship process, she reluctantly agreed to a dog-free household… At least that’s how I remember it happening. She has a different take on that story.

A few months into our marriage she was missing having a dog around and began to say so…frequently. Though stone-walling her suggestion for the first few months, I eventually decided to say “yes” to her emotional requests and beautiful pleading eyes. So we drove to the animal shelter and got Riley.

It has been a sacrifice. In the early stages Riley barked all night and totally messed up my sleep on several occasions. She was the most adorable puppy at 2 months old and only 7 pounds, but she apparently also had a bladder the size of an acorn! She needed to pee about every 10 minutes (which wasn’t always outside the house, much to her owners chagrin!)

She went through an incredible chewing phase in which she seemed to destroy bone after bone, toy after toy, as well as the occasional piece of clothing that was accidentally left on the floor.

She proceeded into her digging stage. (We still have pot holes in the back yard.)

And from there into her pulling-the-coffee-grounds-out-of -the-trash-can phase…

And here we are 9 months later, into our dog owning experience.

My life has felt like a scene from Marley and Me on occasion, (and I am not as phlegmatic about our dog destroying stuff as that family was!) Nevertheless, I have been glad to show sacrificial love to my wife.

And, while I may regret saying this tomorrow when Riley does something destructive or irritating, I think the pooch is growing on me too.

Two Years Ago Today…

November 3rd, 2009

Two years ago today I asked Katie to marry me. Thankfully, she said “yes” and made me the happiest man in the world! It sure has been a great adventure since then.

Here is the picture we took a few minutes after I popped the big question.

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30 Memories of Our First Year of Marriage

May 17th, 2009

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It was one year ago today, that I married my darling wife Katie. What a year it has been! Here are some of the most memorable parts: 

  1. Seeing Katie in her white dress coming down the aisle!!! (SO Beautiful!!)
  2. Our Wedding ceremony and reception. (Wow!! It was great! Thanks to the McClures and everyone who helped pull it off.)
  3. Our honeymoon trip
  4. Traveling for two months of partnership development
  5. Our home air conditioning unit completely breaking down and needing replacement in late July. 
  6. Moving all of her stuff in (musicians have a lot of stuff. – sheet music, instruments, cases for the instruments, instrument stands….)
  7. Re-learning how to do a budget and use the Dave Ramsey “envelope system” together. 
  8. Katie starting Nursing School (this is a highly competitive program at FSU!)
  9. Me adjusting to a new phase of campus ministry
  10. Katie adjusting to being the wife of a full time campus minister 
  11. Getting the house transformed from a bachelor pad to a female-friendly environment
  12. Our house being burglarized during Final’s Week and having our porch finger-printed
  13. Me starting Seminary distance classes
  14. Learning how to communicate
  15. Learning how not to communicate
  16. Meeting my sister’s fiance
  17. Ice skating over Christmas in Erie
  18. Seeing snow and my family over Christmas
  19. Me ultimately getting Katie a dog after seeing her own “puppy dog eyes” pleading countless times
  20. Walks and talks at Southwood lake
  21. Katie playing a horrible practical joke on me for April Fool’s Day
  22. Missing each other terribly during several conferences I went to while she stayed
  23. Date nights
  24. Old Mexico… (need I say more.?)
  25. My car getting towed at FAMU (twice)
  26. Katie’s good cooking! …(Thanks for your influence Christi and Giada!) 
  27. Me having to start running/exercising again regularly (a result of Katie’s good cooking)
  28. Turning thirty.
  29. Kayaking down the Wakulla River and seeing manatees, fish, birds and an alligator!
  30. Celebrating our one year anniversary this weekend. 

I thank God for giving me such a special woman to share life with. I am truly blessed among men. 

Mathew 6:33